Hmm. Having trouble coming up with a story to exemplify this. A crucial part of being an adult consists of a two step exercise:

1. Figuring out what your flaws are. Some are easy to see; some are very hard to see.
2. Using the gray matter in your head to do specific things to work around or minimize them.
One example is when we admitted that we are impulsive, and decided that we would always sleep on a big purchasing decision, no matter how bad we wanted it or how hurried we were. Tough. Sleep on it.

Another example: after having enough people get pissed off at me over a lot of years, I just made the policy decision that I might as well spend less time explaining to myself how it was really THEIR fault, and just get right on to apologizing. When you are the common thread, you are probably the cause...

An un-example: a friend of mine desperately wanted to be a pastor. He bounced all over from church to church and denomination to denomination. No one would ordain him. As far as I can tell he never figured out that it was because everyone could see he was unfit. No, to his mind, everyone was mean and unfair. He wouldn't do the math.

We all have these problems- being an adult is working to identify them and strategizing how to mitigate them as much as possible.

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